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Ladies,
this was sent to me a while back by a woman doing her graduate work at the
University of Wisconsin, so I'll take no credit or blame.
The
following is a clip from a 1950's Home Economics textbook intended for
high school girls, teaching them how to prepare for married life.
Have
dinner ready: Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious
meal- on time. This is a way of letting him know that you have
been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are
hungry when they come home and the prospects of a good meal are part of
the warm welcome needed.
Prepare
yourself: Take 15 minutes to rest so you will be refreshed when he
arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair, and be fresh
looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay
and a little more interesting. His boring day may need a lift.
Clear
away the clutter: Make one last trip through the main part of the
house just before your husband arrives, gathering up school books, toys,
paper, etc. Then run a dust cloth over the tables. Your husband will feel
he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift,
too.
Prepare
the children: Take a few minutes to wash the children's hands and
faces (if they are small), comb their hair, and if necessary, change their
clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing
the part.
Minimize
all noise: At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of washer,
dryer, dishwasher, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children
to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and be glad
to see him.
Some
don'ts: Don't greet him with problems or complaints. Don't complain if
he's late for dinner. Count this as minor compared to what he might have
gone through that day.
Make
him comfortable: Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or suggest
he lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.
Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soft,
soothing, and pleasant voice. Allow him to relax--unwind.
Listen
to him: You may have a dozen things to tell him, but the moment of his
arrival is not the time Let him talk first.
Make
the evening his: Never complain if he does not take you out to dinner
or to other places of entertainment. Instead, try to understand his world
of strain and pressure, his need to be home and relax.
The
goal: Try to make your home a place of peace and order where your
husband can renew himself in body and spirit."
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